This might be one of the questions I hear the most from those questioning their faith or deciding to leave.
None of us want to disappoint, hurt, embarrass, or drive a wedge between ourselves and our parents.
We want our parents to be proud of us.
And yet, part of growing up to be an autonomous, authentic, adult human being means that we’ll occasionally spark disappointment in others and sometimes those people will be our parents.
Because you are a separate and distinct individual from other humans, you will sometimes make decisions they would not have made. This will create disappointment.
And that’s ok.
We can learn to allow our parents their disappointed feelings without feeling responsible for them as we move to be loyal to ourselves, our values, our beliefs, and our separate callings in life.
In this Q&A, we talk about healthy autonomy, how to be accountable for your actions and words without taking on responsibility for someone else’s emotions, and the difference between disappointment and disrespect.
Wishing you all of the best as you deconstruct.
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