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Emancipate Your Mind: 106: Avoidant Attachment and High-Demand Christianity

If you have an avoidant attachment style, you may feel highly uncomfortable getting emotionally vulnerable with other people, which makes it difficult to create the deep connections you both crave and fear.

On the one hand, you would love to feel the joy of connection with another special human but on the other hand, because you were taught that emotional vulnerability led to disappointment and sometimes rejection, you tend to approach the world as kind of a “lone wolf”. When someone does crack through the wall you keep around your heart, it can feel a little stressful when they start to demand more of your time, energy, or space.

In this episode, we explore both the strengths and weaknesses of this attachment style, how this style develops and explore how high demand religion may have influenced the ways you were encouraged to attach with others. We also discuss a few steps you can take to begin healing this part of yourself so that you can feel safe and secure in your favorite relationships.



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Frederick, Ronald J. “Loving Like You Mean It: Use the Power of Emotional Mindfulness to Transform Your Relationships”. April 30, 2019. Central Recovery Press.

Levine, Amir and Heller, Rachel S.F. “Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find– and Keep– Love”. December 30, 2010. Bluebird Publishing.

Priebe, Heidi. “10 Signs You Might Have Avoidant Attachment Style”. January 12, 2022. YouTube.

Durvasula, Ramani. “Narcissism and Attachment Theory”. October 25, 2021. YouTube.

Sage, Kim. “Healing Avoidant Attachment: Healing Attachment Wounds”. November 9, 2021. YouTube.

The Attachment Project. “Avoidant Attachment Style: Causes and Symptoms”. July 2, 2020.



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